Dating red flags

They can be very charming and alluring at the onset, presenting a false mask to the outside world. Research indicates that narcissism is rising in the population, especially among the younger generation Twenge and Campbell, Fast-forwarding intimacy is a sign that he or she is really, really interested in me. They have a genuine interest in finding a partner who is compatible with them and have no interest in misleading or exploiting anyone.

Narcissists, on the other hand, want to fast-forward both emotional and physical intimacy as a way to win your trust and investment in them quickly. This is someone who, without even knowing you, professes their adoration with you early on.

They contact you excessively, give you laser-focused attention and may even take you on extravagant romantic outings that seem too good to be true. Narcissistic dating partners are less interested in building a solid, authentic connection and far more interested in getting into your head and possibly your bed.

Bad behavior is the exception, not the rule — thus we must give the benefit of the doubt. Many of us approach dating with an excessive sense of generosity. We believe that certain red flags can be dismissed, when in fact, it is incredibly telling that these flags are appearing at all so early.

Narcissists tend to test the boundaries of their victims by pulling stunts that are so shocking that victims have a difficult time processing their actions. This could manifest in a number of different ways. Perhaps a usually polite and gentlemanly dating partner suddenly sends you explicit or obscene messages out of nowhere; maybe a female dating partner suddenly gives you the silent treatment, disappears, only to reappear again with no explanation as if nothing happened.

Your partner could exhibit a sudden outburst of rage that seems absolutely shocking when considering their normally demure demeanor.

However, thinly veiled insults, abrupt harsh jabs, excessive sarcasm and a condescending tone are tell-tale signs that you might be dealing with someone narcissistic or at the very least toxic. Strangely, this could be appealing initially because as human beings we are subconsciously taught that whoever makes us pine for approval must hold some form of power or superiority over us.

In reality, that person is attempting to drag you down from your present position because they are threatened by your confidence. Authentic dating partners should be laughing with you, not making you the butt of every joke. Toxic partners feel the only way to build attraction is by undermining your sense of self. Remember, anyone who has to build attraction in such a covert and demeaning manner is someone who is lacking and deficient in other areas.

While chemistry can certainly be an indicator of a connection, more often than not, when we use chemistry as the sole evidence of intimacy, we lose focus of true compatibility.

They leave you guessing, walking on eggshells and wondering what will happen next. A relationship with a narcissist is one big biochemical rollercoaster and an adrenaline rush like no other. Any jealousy or insecurity we experience is an indication of our problems with our self-esteem. Narcissists are prone to creating love triangles and harems to manufacture these insecurities in you. They engage in needless comparisons and infidelity to make you compete for their attention.

They plant seeds of self-doubt to burgeon into an overwhelming sense of worthlessness. They build a new reality for you to live in — their reality. A dating partner who makes you feel consistently insecure — especially by flattering you then withdrawing and insulting you or by making you compete — is not someone who is healthy.

At the very least, they are on the spectrum of narcissism because they are unable to relate to you with empathy, respect and decency. They celebrate your strengths and honor your boundaries. References American Psychiatric Association Diagnostic and statistical manual of mental disorders 5th Ed. Retrieved July 24, , from https: Living in the age of entitlement. The effect of self-esteem on romantic liking. Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, 1 2 , The affective and cognitive empathic nature of the dark triad of personality.

Personality and Individual Differences, 52 7 , How to Devalue and Discard the Narcissist While Supplying Yourself, featured as a 1 Amazon Bestseller in three categories and as a 1 Amazon bestseller in personality disorders for twelve consecutive months after its release. Her work has been shared and endorsed by numerous clinicians, mental health advocates, mental health professionals and bestselling authors.

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